Inside Out: Friedman’s Self-Reflection for Conflict Professionals

Over the past year, a group of professionals involved with divorcing couples (lawyers, mediators, therapists, and financial planners) met once a month in my office. Sitting in a circle, we talked about the cases in which we had become angry or frustrated with our clients or with another lawyer on the case. We shared times when we were fearful or confused and wanted to help but had no idea how ...read more

Evenhandedness: Lessons from a Couples Counselor

Mediators strive to be fair and impartial. Working with clients without bias, neither inclining toward nor moving away from them, is essential to the mediation process. If we fail at this, we lose the trust and confidence of one or both clients and destroy the integrity of the mediation process. And yet . . . since we are human beings, we mediators come fully equipped with biases, preju ...read more

Collaborative Dialogues: Part 2

What Collaborative Couples Therapy Can Teach Mediators and Lawyers In my last post (http://www.dwyermediate.com/blog/turning-harmful-conversations-into-collaborative-dialogues-part-1), I summarized the basic theory and practices of Collaborative Couples Therapy offered by psychologist Dan Wile (http://danwile.com/). Today, I want to explore whether a practice designed to help couples ...read more

Turning Harmful Conversations into Collaborative Dialogues: Part 1

Collaborative Couples Therapy and Dr. Daniel Wile I recently completed a workshop on Collaborative Couples Therapy offered by psychologist Dan Wile (http://danwile.com/) in Oakland. Surrounded by psychologists and therapists who dedicate their professional lives to helping couples improve their marriages, I was the only professional whose focus is to help couples dissolve their marriage ...read more

10 Reasons Why Collaborative Law Might Be Right for You

Getting a divorce might seem more complicated now than it used to be. There are certainly more choices to be made on the front end. Should we use mediation? Or Collaborative Law? Or the traditional court system? At the very moment when life seems to be falling apart, it is not easy to take the time you need to determine the best process for handling your divorce. But making a good choice  ...read more

Collaborative Divorce Comes of Age in Portland

At long last, Collaborative Law is finding its legs in Portland. The number of professionals offering a non-adversarial option for divorcing couples is growing rapidly. There are an increasing number of lawyers, mental health professionals, child specialists, and financial planners specializing in collaborative law practice, including some of Portland’s most prominent family law a ...read more